This week, I mediated a case brought by a very wealthy woman against her former business partner in a business centered around her daughter's sport. Now that the woman had a falling out with her daughter, (who was a freshman in college), she was angry at the considerable investment she had made in her childhood activities. Rather than sue her own daughter, she sued her daughter's fondest coach. Once it became evident that the lawsuit was not motivated by a desire to collect considerable damages, but by a hope that she could be heard and understood now that she was alone, she could put the dispute in a proper storage bin, alongside all of the complicated emotions and memories that empty nesters put the worldly possessions of their children's childhood in once they move away and spread their wings. Having your last child move out on his own is a huge adjustment, but, like aging itself, there is no easy way to turn back the clock and change history. Mom and Dad just have to keep looking forward, not back and re-frame their children's childhood in the most favorable light possible.
Even a black cat can not consistently spot the mouse in the grass. Once she makes peace with that, she can just begin to enjoy the long grassy garden for it's own sake.